3-55. Do not look to others for love. Look inwards and give unconditional love to yourself. You are all you actually need. Do this and those who are good for you will start arriving in your life.
To regard another Child of God as a source of love or companionship that you are unable to provide for yourself is one of the deepest and most mendacious illusions of the ego, for each and every Child of God is Complete, in and of themselves. God does not Create partialities or incompletenesses of spirit in any manner at all, and so there cannot ever be another who is able to give to you anything that you lack, for all of the concept of lack, or its mutated twin aspect destituteness, is a prevarication and perversion of the ego - it is not integral to Truth, and so it is not at all Real. Yet the ego will have none of this - it will demand that you seek out something from another, some form of affection or attention, that you believe you cannot provide for yourself, and in doing so the ego enslaves you to its dictates, whereas the Truth that has remained forever still, if painfully dormant in your heart awaits but the moment when you surrender all beliefs in incompleteness so that you might Remember your Totality and infinite Peace. This seems impossible to the ego, for the ego is a partially accepted belief in unworthiness, but your heart retains a certainty of continuation and stability that can be forgotten, rejected or even derided as being foolish in the extreme, but which remains valid and provable, if and when you are ready to invest yourself solely within your own Power to create, rather than asking of another what only you can first give, and then finally Give, to yourself alone and with a completeness that is absolute and perfect in every way. Looking to others, and then positing a rationale as to why, now that they are a part of your life, that you are somehow more “complete” or “happy” than you were before is a lie, but it is one that is venerated in the extreme by the current incarnations and manifestations of human societies all around the world, and so it is not at all surprising that it would be so deeply accepted without any genuine inquiry at all on the part of so many. That is not the Way of Peace, for it presupposes some error in Creation that is not at all correct or valid at all. Were the perspective of completion through romantic love, or any other form of conditional and limited experience of love, to be actually accurate at all, there must be some form of validity to the argument that through the attention and support of another, you are made to be better, stronger or more complete that you could have possibly been on your own. But what madness is this? If we are to take this to its logical extreme, then you must, per force, be prevented from achieving all of the Joy of God unless you are so fortunate to be able to locate and then retain a partnership that does not end, for surely within the presentation of this falsehood, there is a structure that dictates that it is only when you are in a state of relationship with another that you are possessed of the ability to be the “best” or “greatest” version of yourself. But what sense does that really make, if you are brave enough to be willing to accept that all propositions of error within the Totality of Creation are projections of the ego, and not direct or indirect evidence of any mistake on the part of God at all? This is quite the leap of faith for some, for it requires undoing all assignments of blame for situational alignments that appear to be unbeneficial in the extreme, instead accepting that all that is best for you will manifest just as soon as you are able to accept that you are deserving of whatever it is that is most able to teach you of your innate and unique value and worth. That is the exact undoing of the ego’s continuous desire to belittle you with beliefs in unworthiness, and it is quite a process to undergo, if you are still willing to clamber in the dark for the thinnest scraps of justification of the ego’s assignment of blame to God for a world that does not always exactly match what it is that you believe this world of form should be. But what of this, what is it that is presented as being at all valuable? What instead could be taken up, if loss is erased and pain is recognized as unnecessary within the schema of the most grandiose and beautiful Awakening to Love that any soul could possibly experience? What is left, when all assumptions of error are relinquished and acceptance reigns supreme over fear? Why, it is such a simple conclusion that it often evades even the most refined and focused of minds. All that remains after all that is illusion is set aside is Love, and all of that Love continues within and through you - not absent you and not in some location or with some person who is inaccessible at all. That is a travesty of the highest order - to believe that it was ever necessary for you to find some person who could “complete” you, so that you would ignore your own sanctity and completeness, just as you are now, as a whole and complete Child of God. What a horrific perversion of Truth has the ego offered, to make you dependent upon seemingly random chance, a future alignment with some magical person who contains keys to your own heart, seemingly able to release all of the happiness that you believe you deserve, but that you cannot give to yourself. What a waste of time, to invest yourself within such a belief, when all of the Peace of God is already contained within the perfect center of your heart. What would you have? What do you believe that you deserve to have? These twin inquiries are all that need be presented, and then answered in complete honesty to yourself, to undo all that the ego has presented as a systemic oppression of your own innate divinity. Only you can free yourself from the belief that it is the responsibility of another to find you and to liberate you from a prison of loneliness and unfulfilled longing that is forever representative of a disconnection from your own heart, and never from the heart of another. Need is frequently misunderstood within the world of form, and for good reason. All that is needed for the continuation of your physical vessel are simple ingredients. Yet nothing at all is needed for the maintenance of your soul, for all that God Creates is Perfect and Complete, and so there is no loss within all of Creation, even though the concept and application of loss within the world of form has such a great variety of forms and reasons for acceptance. No longer believe that you are beholden to anyone to give you some measure of joy that you cannot experience without them - that is the ego in one of its most raw forms, a perversion of the purity of your own heart that the ego will attempt to use to ply you with illusion when you need only Remember your own completeness to be free of all longing at all. And once accomplished, this simplest of reversals of the perception of the ego will alter almost all aspects of your life and awareness, for you will present yourself to the universe in a completely different harmonic balance, one that does not strive for fulfillment through the attention of another, but one that serves as a pure and completely undeniable testament to the solidity and strength of your own heart, now no longer disregarded and maligned, but rather celebrated and venerated as the singular and absolutely perfect personal locus of alignment with God and with Love, a channel of the greatest purity imaginable, and one that has never closed or been diverted at all. Through the total acceptance of yourself as a Perfect Child of God, you will find that the universe will demonstrate to you a great variety of situations and personages who are equally able to See you as you are, accepting you completely and enjoying your company and companionship without any sense of dependency or requirement at all, for you will have presented to this world your acceptance of your innate and eternal ability to look beyond all of the illusionary presentations of the ego, and from such a state of transcendence of all limitations, the universe will be most joyful to demonstrate to you that indeed, nothing can restrict Love in any way at all, and as an inescapable consequence, nothing can prevent your heart from being wholly at Peace, just as it and you are, forever.