How To Heal
Healing from trauma - especially heartbreak, loss, and the naturally associated emotional states that will accompany such a drastic change in your life - will not occur overnight. You will have good days and bad, and many times you will have no choice about what each day brings.
Allowing ALL of the associated emotional states to arise, be recognized, felt and released is essential for healing. You cannot simply choose to love your good days and hate your bad ones. That is not healing. That is repression, and such a suppression will only impede you.
This is not to say that allowing your emotions - and I truly do mean ALL of them, even the ones that appear able to literally rend your heart apart, causing you such pain that you'd rather die than face another second of its agony, is absolutely necessary for true healing.
This process will require great bravery. You will have to face yourself and your darkness. You will have to accept all of the aspects of yourself without reservation - the loneliness, the isolation, the feeling that you can't possibly continue if you don't have companionship.
You can absolutely accomplish this. You can heal from anything. There are no limits to your capacity for growth and independence from the idea that you must have love from another to love yourself. But don't for one minute attempt to fool yourself into thinking it'll be easy.
It's not easy to change. It's much easier to stay the same - to linger in the self-reassuring drowsiness of believing your ego's lies rather than the Truth that all of the Love that you've needed has already been accessible to you. It's in your heart. It was never anywhere else.
The greatest, and the most poignantly painful of relationships, will force you to face this simple Truth. You won't want to. That's OK. You'll face it anyway and you be better for what you remembered than you ever were before you lived to deeply in the lie of dependence on love.
It's not supposed to be easy to Awaken to Love. It can be, and it is actually effortless, but don't ask for that. It's not always the best route for you. If it was, you'd know. If it wasn't, you'll know too because you'll be asked to do what you previously thought was impossible.
When the Joy of being present within yourself, alive to each moment of Love and Aware of the beauty of everything strikes you, accept that and move higher. When the pain returns and you feel as though it was all for naught, accept that as well. You need to fall down to Rise up.
Acceptance of all emotions is essential for the arising of all emotions. When some are repressed, all of them are subordinated to your stubborn will. This will not do. You will not improve from this, you will degrade your own emotional capacity and you will lose sight of Truth.
When you have lost, accept the loss. Do not rail against it. Do not weep for what could not be. Accept that it is gone now, but that you remain. You remain a blessed and Beloved Child of God, and that is enough. You did not need another to show you this. It has always been True.
Don't belittle yourself because another was incapable of loving you as only you can Love yourself. That was not why they came here. That was not why you came here. You both came here to Awaken to Love. That Love has always been with you. What they reflected was but aspects of you.
The Love that is your Home is Alive within your heart. No one can give it to you. No one can take it away from you. You never truly needed another. They never truly needed you. What you needed was to remember - to remember that you are Love incarnate, for that is enough.
If you can remember but this - that you are Love and you will always be Love, you will heal and you will Rise again, returning to the Light and leaving behind all that appeared able to forever condemn you to the death of a heart that refuses to live because it refuses to Love.
Be the Love that you are. Be this Love to yourself and be it to everyone else. They ache for your light, because they refuse to See their own. Be the Light for them until they are ready to be the Light for themselves. You can do no more than this nor are you ever Called to by God.
By being the Light of Love whenever you can - which may NOT be all the time and that is absolutely OK, you are doing all that you can do to both heal this world and to heal yourself. What more could you possibly ask of another, or of yourself, than to be the Love that you Are?
To be Love to others is to be Love to yourself, for what you Give to others without desire for recognition in any form is Given to yourself, by yourself, equally and completely. What more could you ask of yourself than to be what you Are? What else would God ever ask you to do?
So, Give o you precious and infinitely Beautiful Child of God. You have no idea what you can accomplish or what miracles you can effect when you are purely yourself, unrestricted by all of the encumbrances of the ego, Freed again from illusion, an Angel of Light for all to See.
Do but this - Give, again and again, never ceasing to know that God will support you in all that you do that is of God, for God is Love and Love is eternally Given to you so that you might Give it to others with no regard for their ability to accept it. That will always be enough.
In your Giving, all that afflicted your heart will cease to exist, for it will be erased by the Miracle of the Love of God and you will know that you have always dwelled safely within the Heart of God, unrestricted and Free from the beginning of time until long after its end.
Allowing ALL of the associated emotional states to arise, be recognized, felt and released is essential for healing. You cannot simply choose to love your good days and hate your bad ones. That is not healing. That is repression, and such a suppression will only impede you.
This is not to say that allowing your emotions - and I truly do mean ALL of them, even the ones that appear able to literally rend your heart apart, causing you such pain that you'd rather die than face another second of its agony, is absolutely necessary for true healing.
This process will require great bravery. You will have to face yourself and your darkness. You will have to accept all of the aspects of yourself without reservation - the loneliness, the isolation, the feeling that you can't possibly continue if you don't have companionship.
You can absolutely accomplish this. You can heal from anything. There are no limits to your capacity for growth and independence from the idea that you must have love from another to love yourself. But don't for one minute attempt to fool yourself into thinking it'll be easy.
It's not easy to change. It's much easier to stay the same - to linger in the self-reassuring drowsiness of believing your ego's lies rather than the Truth that all of the Love that you've needed has already been accessible to you. It's in your heart. It was never anywhere else.
The greatest, and the most poignantly painful of relationships, will force you to face this simple Truth. You won't want to. That's OK. You'll face it anyway and you be better for what you remembered than you ever were before you lived to deeply in the lie of dependence on love.
It's not supposed to be easy to Awaken to Love. It can be, and it is actually effortless, but don't ask for that. It's not always the best route for you. If it was, you'd know. If it wasn't, you'll know too because you'll be asked to do what you previously thought was impossible.
When the Joy of being present within yourself, alive to each moment of Love and Aware of the beauty of everything strikes you, accept that and move higher. When the pain returns and you feel as though it was all for naught, accept that as well. You need to fall down to Rise up.
Acceptance of all emotions is essential for the arising of all emotions. When some are repressed, all of them are subordinated to your stubborn will. This will not do. You will not improve from this, you will degrade your own emotional capacity and you will lose sight of Truth.
When you have lost, accept the loss. Do not rail against it. Do not weep for what could not be. Accept that it is gone now, but that you remain. You remain a blessed and Beloved Child of God, and that is enough. You did not need another to show you this. It has always been True.
Don't belittle yourself because another was incapable of loving you as only you can Love yourself. That was not why they came here. That was not why you came here. You both came here to Awaken to Love. That Love has always been with you. What they reflected was but aspects of you.
The Love that is your Home is Alive within your heart. No one can give it to you. No one can take it away from you. You never truly needed another. They never truly needed you. What you needed was to remember - to remember that you are Love incarnate, for that is enough.
If you can remember but this - that you are Love and you will always be Love, you will heal and you will Rise again, returning to the Light and leaving behind all that appeared able to forever condemn you to the death of a heart that refuses to live because it refuses to Love.
Be the Love that you are. Be this Love to yourself and be it to everyone else. They ache for your light, because they refuse to See their own. Be the Light for them until they are ready to be the Light for themselves. You can do no more than this nor are you ever Called to by God.
By being the Light of Love whenever you can - which may NOT be all the time and that is absolutely OK, you are doing all that you can do to both heal this world and to heal yourself. What more could you possibly ask of another, or of yourself, than to be the Love that you Are?
To be Love to others is to be Love to yourself, for what you Give to others without desire for recognition in any form is Given to yourself, by yourself, equally and completely. What more could you ask of yourself than to be what you Are? What else would God ever ask you to do?
So, Give o you precious and infinitely Beautiful Child of God. You have no idea what you can accomplish or what miracles you can effect when you are purely yourself, unrestricted by all of the encumbrances of the ego, Freed again from illusion, an Angel of Light for all to See.
Do but this - Give, again and again, never ceasing to know that God will support you in all that you do that is of God, for God is Love and Love is eternally Given to you so that you might Give it to others with no regard for their ability to accept it. That will always be enough.
In your Giving, all that afflicted your heart will cease to exist, for it will be erased by the Miracle of the Love of God and you will know that you have always dwelled safely within the Heart of God, unrestricted and Free from the beginning of time until long after its end.